our last resting place

Thats amazing - the way the branches are twisted around each other - two growing as one - very apt for the reasons you planted them

thanx busy and not of our doing though if id of thaught of it i mite of done it . i cant think of a better place and we realy put something back that benefits the planet .

lovely idea.....wonderful spot....

Not yet, I hope, Np - you're far too young! ;-)

Lovely idea! Lovely spot! There's a certain pointed rock where large raptor birds like to rest which we can see from our casa and, being 21 years older than my partner, I have given instructions that my ashes should be sprinkled by him from that spot so that I can float all over the lovely valley. A lot of people are fearful of death, but I think if you can plan such a lovely ending then there's nothing to be fearful about. Enjoy, Nosey. :o))

Beautiful idea NPI love the way the stems have intertwined.

We set my farther in law free to travel the world by sea 3 years ago. We had a humanist ceremony and it was the most beautiful service have ever been to. It's good to plan and let you family know what you want them to do. It’s not something to be scared of

Great idea NP.

What a positive and happy way of viewing something that is usually associated with sadness. A truly wonderful idea.

Great positive thinking N.P

Its so unusual for a young couple like yourselves to think about death,
but it all sounds wonderful the way you have expressed it to us.

The branches are amazing! the way they have twined together.

Love the picture of your family of dogs they are gorgeous!!!

Freesiaperson x

What a briliant idea .. I love the way the branches have intertwined , almost as though they somehow knew the reasons behind it ... you have many happy years to go yet Leigh and Mel ... enjoy it while you may .. :o))

Thats a lovely idea.. when my Grandad died I took his ashes up to a nature reserve only to be told you are not allowed to spread ashes in a public place - but my Pop loved it up there and had spread my Nan's ashes there 20 years ago - so one quiet Sunday morning Pop and a tesco recycling bag (well we had to put him in something!!! - he would have curled up laughing - warped sense of humour!!) went where my Nans ashes had been put and there was a tree growing so we spread Pop around the tree (keeping an eye out for warden/dog walkers!!) - as my son and i walked back down the path a warden was just parking his car!! I like to think my Pop is back where he wanted to be!!

well nosey i thought a bit morbid at first but once i read it all i thought it was a lovely thing to do, dont go yet though lol, lovely pics to ;o))

People should be able to have their final wishes honoured as long as they hurt no-one.
A friend of mine died and his widow and I scattered his ashes at the entrance of the local British Legion club in the hope that anyone entering would also take a little piece of Geoff into his favourite watering hole. Obviously we told no-one at the time.

there very nice words nariz sounds nice.well sue being scared wont realy save you anyway i guess so being comfortable that your doing something good in death that maybe you couldnt in life is quite lovley .i like what you said genius and how redicules that you cant spread someting thats actualy good for the planet around rather than pay the man loads of money to be stuck in the ground anyway.i dont want and funeral . i would rather people celebrated my life than all stould round upset.i wouldnt care if it was in a cardboard box done bye 1 person .i love my dogs i think they belong under the trees when there time comes later rather than sooner .my dad loved fishing and his ashes got sprinkled in the river .your right amy nice vissit again bye the way it is almost like the trees knew what to do .theres a song about wise trees . they live so long and are so importent to so many things . just because they dont fit into our idea of wisdom doesnt mean that they arnt wise . the clever ones do grow in the right place and there a great life force .i have a friend who grows bonzi trees who showed me how to love and apreciate trees .thanx everyone for your great comments take care bye for now xx .

the dogs from left to right are sid,merkin,blanche,sausage and jerry if your interested.

There is a wood on the outskirts of Norwich where you can go to be laid to rest - no headstones or monoliths - just beautiful trees and nature all around.

I know it Busylizzy , I pass it everytime I go into Norwich that way , it looks very peaceful and pleasant .......

It was lovely to see both you and Mel Leigh ... you are welcome anytime you know that ... x I have scattered both my Fathers and my brothers ashes in places that I shouldn't have done without permission ...!

you little devil you amy lol it was realy nice seeing you to and ill see you soon take care bye for now .to much red tape these days its untrue .i quite like the history of old head stones but i dont want one .i remember watching shindlers list . the natzies excuse my spelling had used jewish tomb stones as a road . now im not condonining that at all but i just thaught the path/road looked stunning but not the idea behind why it was made.i dont believe in war either or murder or abortion but sometimes it mite be better than the other option and being a realist what works best for the commen goal, even though it almost makes me look a hypocryte, but we all are to a lesser or greater degree is the real way ahead.love thy neighber i believe .anyway enough of my rambling take care bye for now xx .

I tossed my husbands ashes into a winter wind that was at my back, on a Christmas morning by myself. The wind carried the ashes across the beach, and on into the Straits. The place was where he liked to drive to and sit to watch the ships and the eagles and the wind. He had often talked about scattering his mother ashes there...I took his mothers ashes that he had still and put them with his then scattered them together there....
Later in the year, my daughter and I took a walk on that same beach. I walked up to where I had stood that Christmas morning. Someone had written on the beach where the ashes had flown across. "I love you"....it had almost been washed away and looked like a gift from the sea...

to me irelivent of money something like that cant be baught and cant be beat.your husband and motherinlaw belong together and there to .its a wonderfull story catfinch and so are all the others on here . very special to the people it needs to be special to.the ashes to will land somewear and will have done some living thing or things some good to . i think its great for that reasen to and with the i love you or my willow being inadvertently written or twisted are the things of fairy tails and the chances of these things happening are millions to one as if they were ment to be . far better than watching lots of upset people in the same place dressed in black.i would be unhappy if anyone wore black for me ironicly its my faverite colour and even more ironicly black isnt a colour. better to selebrate someones life in death as i think people who care are going to be upset just finding out and personaly though i feal know shame in crying id rather be sad like that on my own. anyway before i well up ill change the subject.im going to go back every year i think and take another photo and also in its summer glory . did anyone know weeping willows arnt natural to england.take care great comments,brilliant touching stories take care and its goodbye from me and in the words of the imortal eric morcam ( BRING ME SUNSHINE )

:) we had sunshine here today...I took my dogs for a walk ..and I saw the first hummingbird of the year! I took pictures..maybe I will manage to put one on GOY...

wow how lovley a hummingbird .they got a terrible sugar habit to keep them little wings beating.i remember my partner melly who though shes a quick lerner hasnt been round an animal lover before if you like in a realy hot summer we had .ive got a honeysuckle in my backgarden and at the time it was in full flower.she came to me and said have you seen that humming bird in the garden.i said humming bird in south east england and questioned her.anyway i went outside and couldnt believe my eyes when i thaught i sore the very same thing.as i got closer i realised it was a moth but in the day and flying as you can imagine like a humming bird.it turns out as the weather was so hot they had come over from france or pembrookshire on the warm winds but couldnt breed as the weather is to fussy but it was lovley to see . things like that make having a garden realy worth while .take care catfinch bye for now xx .

i guess me and mel realy have tied the knot lol.

Yes hummers love sweet nectar for sure...and yes you and Mel have tied the knot..lol..happy for you...xx

Lovely story NP, it was meant to be :) Those trees should be huge before your plans are realised :))
CatF I had an involuntary shudder when I read your story ! What are the chances of you coming across the beach with those words still present ? It really is amazing how things come together xx

yes thats much more real for me and spontanious to brilliant story catf xx

Aster it is amazing..but not surprising to me, love is one of those bits of energy that goes on forever and does not lose it's strength. My daughter was very surprised and happy when she saw it..she actually pointed it out to me first. We were walking together and climbed up to the top at the same time, she turned around before me to look back at the water...and there it was... I had been waiting for something to come to me from that beautiful, loving energy of his..it always does...

energy never ends it just morphs .

i do hope they are huge before i meet my maker as they will be part of the landscape and less vulnrable .they have a great place and a great start . ive been lucky enough to see a pair of king fishers along here to .

I believe this too Leigh..I think it is so beautiful...

I know we are supposed to be more receptive to such things as children but as we lose it in mid life (probably too busy!) I think it seems to return as we get older :)

Nice one Nosey.
Amy/Catfinch: I think its wonderful what you did with your loved ones ashes.
I did the same with my Dad's - well, lets just say he's always in the garden with me, which was his garden for 40 years - his favourite place :-)

thats wear he belongs dawn and in death he is still putting something back into his beloved garden xx .

Yep Nosey, I'm glad you've said what you have .... that's the way I think too :-)

your welcome dawn he will be there for ever in his own little way and thats as good as it gets xx.

Yes Nosey, forever :-)

xx .