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Belated happy new year!

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Hello fellow Goyers, I haven’t visited GoY since the end of December and, as it will be February this Sunday, I feel I should explain my absence.

The year ended with the passing of a favourite Aunt of Michaels on 30th December, we went to her funeral last Monday, a dreadfully long wait since her death.

On 3rd January my Mother-in-law passed away following a fall at her Care Home and we attended her funeral a week ago. It was a truly awful day as my own Mother collapsed at home in the early morning, but thanks to a very dedicated GP and the Rapid Assessment Intervention Team (RAIT) she is now on the mend. It has been a very sad time all round.

I have just stood outside in the bitter cold while a Keysafe Box has been fitted at my Mum’s house, in case she falls while I’m not around, enabling the emergency services to gain entry.

At least I’m not missing gardening, it’s far too chilly to be outdoors! A few Snowdrops and Crocus are out and some Clematis have buds on already. No snow down here on the South coast, but I’m thinking of those who do have the horrible stuff, take great care.

As I like a blog with a photo I’ve shown the early flowering Daffodil again, the one that opened on Boxing Day and now has five blooms that spring back up again after the frost has made them droop.

I shall be back before too long but have a Care Plan etc. to put in place for my Mum so that must take priority.

Take care, stay warm, roll on Spring.

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I've been missing you Shirley. So sad about Aunt and MIL. I hope you will soon be organised. Those entry boxes are a great help as Mum won't need to come to the door if she's struggling...anyone can let themself in if they have the code. We found it essential for MIL. Stay warm and well and we'll see you again soon xx

30 Jan, 2015

 

Poor Shirley, you've had a tough couple of months. Nothing to be done but take it one step at a time and take time to be kind to yourself as well as to the others.

30 Jan, 2015

 

Very sorry to hear this Shirley........old age creeps up on us all, sadly.
Hopefully, you'll get everything in place for your mum so you don't have to worry too much.
Look forward to you being around GOY again soon.

30 Jan, 2015

 

My wife passed away last year and I will tell you that the GOY members have gotten me through some very dark and lonely hours, keep in touch.

30 Jan, 2015

 

Karen, I've been missing GoY too! As Mum has Vascular Dementia it is so difficult to know what she's up to these days ... she told the RAIT nurses she manages independently and shops for her food ... hmm ... cannot remember when she last did that! :o(

Sue, I hope nothing untoward happens any time soon. My OH is a tower of strength and support ... bless him. :o)

Hello Paul, hope you have survived the Christmas & New Year appearances! I have a poorly shoulder too, still waiting for a Physiotherapy appointment, even though I was seen by a Consultant before Christmas ... grr!

Thanks Loosestrife, I can imagine it has as these GoYers are a caring and friendly bunch! I have cared for my 88 yr. old Mother for a few years but am really finding it hard to cope with her now, hence arranging some outside help for her.

30 Jan, 2015

 

I am looking forward to see you back Shirley-tulip. Hopefully you will have your situation with your mom organized soon.

30 Jan, 2015

 

So sorry you have been having such a sad and difficult time, Shirley, and hope things improve with a little bit of help. Look forward to hearing more from you when you have things more settled.

30 Jan, 2015

 

I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles ST. I hope things improve for you from now on. Keep your chin up and remember your GoY friends are all here for you...willing you on.xx

30 Jan, 2015

 

Lovely to 'see' you back Shirley . . I have wondered how you were. It's a very hard time for you, so do look after your own health too. You've done so much for your Mum over the years, so it will be good to have some outside help now too.

We will be here whenever you feel like popping in! xx

30 Jan, 2015

 

Shirley you have had a lot to deal with..no wonder you haven't been on here. My deepest sympathy for your losses and feeling your pain over your mums predicament. Hope the new key plan helps you to no worry about her so much. Take care and make sure you find some time to do something nice..you deserve a treat..xx

31 Jan, 2015

 

Oh Shirley what a difficult time for you my dear big hugs ((((((🙅)))))) Pam x

31 Jan, 2015

 

Hi Shirley ..
I was thinking that we hadn't seen you around GoY for a while ... tough time for your family ... I hope your Mum copes okay through the winter weather. Thinking of you all ... sending hugs x x x

31 Jan, 2015

 

Well, thank you all so very much for your kind words of comfort and support, it means a lot to me.

I spoke too soon regarding the weather as there has been a light dusting of snow overnight, hilarious to see our cat tip-toeing through it this morning! :o)x

31 Jan, 2015

 

Shirley - I'm about to do a blog with all the quiz answers, most of which you got right!

Snow here too - I'm typing in fingerless gloves :)

31 Jan, 2015

 

I'm so sorry to hear of your sad losses Shirley, but I'm pleased your Mum is doing ok. Its snowing heavily here at the moment and as it had all gone yesterday , couldn't believe we woke up to more !
I hope the year gets better for you ! xx

31 Jan, 2015

 

Ooh, I'm interested to view the answers Sheila! Did you win a prize for the extra question you had to ask?

Hello Rose, thanks for your comment. No sign of snow as it's thawed now, hooray! Hope you don't have much more of it. :o)

31 Jan, 2015

 

No - no prizes for us, Shirley, just the fun of doing it.

Yesterday evening I went to a quiz in aid of the MS Trust, which was brilliant. Many things our team disagreed on, which only added to the hilarity . . . they didn't believe me when I said that the painting of the Last Supper is in Milan, but I was right - phew!

31 Jan, 2015

 

You have been through a rough time and I send my very warm wishes for a much happier, easier time ahead.

It will be lovely to see you here again soon.
x

31 Jan, 2015

 

Hi Shirley. I'm sorry to hear the sad news about your relations. Please accept my deepest sympathy.

I also trust your mother will have the care she needs too carry on living in her own house. I understand how stressful it must be for you.

It's a difficult time I know, but I'm sure Ellora is a blessing to you right now. Try to stay positive in the midst of all the worry and sadness.
xxx

31 Jan, 2015

 

Good to see you back Shirley so sorry to hear of yours sad time.

31 Jan, 2015

 

Oh Shirley my heart goes out to you, it seems as though you've had a hard sad start to the year, I sincerely hope it gets better for you.
Really sorry to hear of your losses and I hope things get to be a bit easier now with the caring of your mum although I know it won't stop you worrying and wondering whats going to happen next.
You take care of yourself and try to have a bit of you time for yourself and hubby..xx

31 Jan, 2015

 

My goodness Shirley you have certainly had a lot to cope with. My mum fell 3 weeks ago outside and banged herself up quite badly. We had the Falls prevention team out to assess her and things to put in place. I too bought a key safe last week for her and T is putting it on the wall tomorrow for the same reasons as you. It's such a worry isn't it.
I hope things settle down for you and your husband now and the rest of the year is happy and healthy.

31 Jan, 2015

 

Risk Assesment Intervention Team, Falls Prevention Team. Looks like the UK has got it together. We have nothing like that( that I know of ) over here for our geriatric population over here in the USA.....including myself.

31 Jan, 2015

 

I have just read through your comments and am touched by all the very kind wishes ... thank you all. :o)

Loosestrife2 ... I should have put Rapid (not Risk) Assessment! They are a team of nurses, physiotherapists, Occupational Therapists and Social workers who provide short term urgent care. They accept patients who are experiencing an acute alteration in their physical wellbeing or social circumstances, which without the input of this service, would result in an acute hospital admission. I had no knowledge of this service until it was needed!

2 Feb, 2015

 

Lovely to have you back Shirley I;ve missed you.Hope you are getting over the bereavements of your relatives, and things are going as smoothly as possible with your Mum.My MiL had the same problem, but there wasn;t the help around then, take advantage of it as much as you can, and have some peace of mind. xx Keep your chin up!

2 Feb, 2015

 

Thanks Val, it seems a fair few of us have had, or are having, these problems. I'm meeting a District Nurse at Mums later today to discuss the possibility of Mum going to a Day Centre once a week, mainly for the inter-action with other folk. Just hope she agrees! :o)

3 Feb, 2015

 

Fingers crossed !:-)

3 Feb, 2015

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