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dido

By dido

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At the risk of boring the britches off you all, I thought I’d share my hectic, weird and wonderful last year with you. To start at the very begining my dad came over from Hungary during the uprising in the 50’s, married mum had me, but he did a runner when I was seven, we never saw or heard from him again. The year before last sadly he died, but this revealed all his secrets. Apparrently he had remarried and had a daughter, they not knowing we exhisted, weird eh! Anyway to cut a long story short I have a brand new sister and a whole new family in Hungary who I went to visit this year for the very first time… To say the least lots of tears and hugs and sadness and whys and regrets and all of those things, but guess what I finally found relatives who share my passion for gardening! And where I got that nose from!!lol My sister and I get on like a house on fire and my uncle and cousins in Hungary love me to death its great! Funny, still trying to get my head around it, as it all happend so quickly, but I suppose the moral to this story is “You just never know what is around the corner”!! x

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Dido, that is amazing, what a fantastic story, so exciting. Lovely for you to get to know about your family history (if only in part yet). I wish you good luck in all your visiting and talking and catching up. You are right you never do know what is around the corner. Absolutely fantastic story, thank you for sharing. Its good to know where we get our genes from, I wish I knew where mine came from. When I was looking I just came to a dead end, sad but some things just have to be accepted somethings we are never meant to find out I suppose. Glad you had success in your family history searches.

19 Oct, 2010

 

Hiya Barbara, thank you.. its all fairly new at the moment, but I never ever in my wildest dreams thought I would know my Hungarian family, I just wouldn't have known where to start, its they who found me! Trying to learn Hungarian at the minute, thats a laugh and half, I can tell you.. Its a good job they can speak a little English!

19 Oct, 2010

 

Lovely end to your story Dido. Will they be coming over to see you too?

19 Oct, 2010

 

My cousins children are still at school, there are six of them altogether and money I think is a little tight, I have offered but its early days yet D, watch this space though..

19 Oct, 2010

 

Di Your dad must have let them know about you before he died, that is a big bonus for you. He must have been a caring man really. I have never known my father, the one listed on my birth certificate is not my father, well according to his family who are still alive. So I drew a blank, it must be fantastic to find out about your family in Hungary I really do wish you all good luck in your re-unions. I have given up the search now, too demoralising, and time consuming, every corner I turned became a dead end. Decided to just put it all to bed. Probably wasn't meant to find out. Big believer in things happen for a reason or fate. lol. :0) Happy language learning. :0)

19 Oct, 2010

 

It's difficult to imagine how you feel, but it must have caused you a whole lot of different emotions all at once.
I'm glad you found some gardening relations though. It's great to know where our interests and talents come from :o)

19 Oct, 2010

 

Amazing story... it will take you a while to adjust ...
glad you have so many lovely relatives ...
and the love of gardening to share ... :o)

19 Oct, 2010

 

Agreat story and so pleased you have found new relations.

19 Oct, 2010

 

It was papers and photos he had kept all those years, that his new wife had found after his death, my mum had always kept his name hoping it would be easier for him to find us again (an unusual name for Rotherham!) which helped in the end, but yes thats the sad bit for me, no questions will ever be answered, which I had already come to terms with years ago anyway, I think very much like you Barbara, what will be will be, I'm sad for you though its different kettle of fish your situation isn't it no name or anything to go on must be really frustrating, you watch though I bet one day someone you never thought of will have all the answers, I send you this wish x

Hywel how right you are, the rawest of emotions, some I never thought I possessed, a real rollercoaster of a journey x

19 Oct, 2010

 

Dido, that is lovely, you made me smile, maybe one day I might find that I had a millionaire for a father and be able to buy a big garden somewhere and start all over again with a blank canvas. lol, I do not think so somehow. Enjoy the rollercoaster journey.

19 Oct, 2010

 

Thank you Terra T and Clarice x

19 Oct, 2010

 

How wonderful to find you are part of a larger family and that you all get on so well. Does this mean your Christmas present list has just grown?

19 Oct, 2010

 

'fraid so Linda, but those large tins of Quality Street really come in handy don't they!! lol

19 Oct, 2010

 

If you find he is a millionaire B, please don't forget me and my need for plants!!!LOL

19 Oct, 2010

 

LOL you and a lot more people will need to be remember, love it!

19 Oct, 2010

 

thanks for sharing this ,a rollercoaster indeed but finally the questions answered to some degree and the fascination of life-- and gardens in Hungary to look forward to learning about ( and passing to us maybe?)

19 Oct, 2010

 

amazing story........... my mum is coke and dad is cypriot met in the war .dad married mum to keep her out of ref.camp i came along 15 years later, dad was a brit citizen so that's how we ended up here.............. but my mums dad did a runner and left 6 kids who ended up in a convent on praqe her mum worked over here 4 film stars and mum and sis followed , working as housekeepers cook etc. i cud have a whole other family somewhere in the world and it wud b great to find out . but dont know were to start lol its very interesting to hear others history and all thestorys

19 Oct, 2010

 

Lovely story! What times you have ahead. Enjoy your new family. :o)

20 Oct, 2010

 

Thank you Pamg, yes the gardening habits a very similar to ours bedding plants etc the climate is like we used to have, very cold winters but really hot summers.

Thank you Nariz I will.

Do you know Christina thats what used to keep me going in the early years, fantasising about who they may be or if it could be someone just down the street, and I felt like you, frustrated coz I didn't know where to start, it sounds like your parents didn't have an easy time of it either, but I'm sure they would do it all again if meant just having you! I wish you well, and just remember, you never know whats just around the corner! x

20 Oct, 2010

 

thanks hun . just noticed mum was cheque not cke lol.. i will remeber that xx

20 Oct, 2010

 

How lovely...a happy ending, fascinating story Dido:-) Cristina, you too have a fascinating story, what is a coke?:-)

20 Oct, 2010

 

Dido, I've just found your story and it made me feel so happy for you. It is a wonderful discovery to know you have relations and they will be able to tell you more about your father in his later years.

We often watch a tv programme called Heir Hunters and have seen people on it who discover all sorts of history about missing relatives, or even some they never knew about. It's sad that sometimes we can't meet the person before they pass away but as you say...you've got a whole big family to get to know and love. Good result.

It would be nice for Cristina and Oliveoil to find the missing pieces to their family but it is good also that you have not become too consumed by not getting the details you so much want. (((hugs))) to you both. xx

2 Nov, 2010

 

lol born trying to write in the dark again it should b check, she was from prague

3 Nov, 2010

 

arhh thanks w.lass. hugs to you tooo x

3 Nov, 2010

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