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I heard this morning,that Pimpernel has deleted his account…I am so sorry he felt the need to go….that is all I am going to say…….

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sorry to hear this Bloomer - can't understand what happened :(

11 Aug, 2012

 

Neither can I

11 Aug, 2012

 

I don't think he wanted to go at all, but felt it was the right thing to do. I can't believe he's gone. One of the nicest Goyers ever.

11 Aug, 2012

 

Oh I'm hopping mad! He shouldnt have done that!
he was gallant to post that apology not like other people who maybe should have apologised for things said. WHat the hell is happening to this site! :(

11 Aug, 2012

 

He is a true gentleman, and tried so hard to do the right thing by everyone. It's almost unbelievable that things can go so far . . .

Really going to miss him :(((

11 Aug, 2012

 

Heaven knows Pixi......!. I,m giving up trying to work it out.....stick to plants at least they don't often fall out...... :0)

11 Aug, 2012

 

I agree with you all...let's hope he changes his mind...

11 Aug, 2012

 

Mine do,Pam....I hear them arguing during the night!!!!!LOL.

11 Aug, 2012

 

And we all know who 'should' have gone ... a bully who has no remorse. Where is HIS appology ??? Why is he still here ???
I am thoroughly disgusted at him and anyone who can even think of supporting him !

And I can't stand dramatics. So if Pimpernel wants to leave, he can do so and that's the end of it.
He made enough of a fuss when Severnside left because he was his friend .... but now he's done the same thing himself, to all of us ...

I agree with Pam. I'm sticking to plants from now on ... even my spiney cacti are better than some people :o)

11 Aug, 2012

 

So sorry to read this.....I didn't know anything had happened, at the end of the day, surely nothing can be so bad as to leave the whole site?? Couldn't they just avoid each other, whoever the other is? I really enjoyed Pimper's input.....will be sadly missed.

11 Aug, 2012

 

that is just awful Bloomer, what is going on for goodness sake, I have just read these comments and realised there is yet another BULLY running riot on here, its a sad day when things get this bad,

11 Aug, 2012

 

I'm with Hywel on this one, although having missed it all, I've no idea who the 'bully' who hasn't apologised is... If someone feels the need to leave, whether I'm sorry or not, I respect their decision to do so, its their choice after all. Let's not forget though, that quite often people leave and rejoin later, usually under another pseudonym, or occasionally with the same name again.

11 Aug, 2012

 

I've just seen that he's gone, i am truly shocked he felt the need to leave, even though i have no idea what happened he will be a big loss and i can only hope he returns very soon...

11 Aug, 2012

 

A sad day, when all we wanted to do was swap ideas and share photos :(
ps. Pam, my Iris often argue with my margurite as they need more space Lol

11 Aug, 2012

 

If mine misbehave I threaten them with the naughty step..... :0)

11 Aug, 2012

 

LOL you latter two...

11 Aug, 2012

 

Just got in from work am gutted Pim has gone. I clicked I like the blog as well. I should clarify, I like that Bloomer has drawn our attention to it - thank you Bloomer. I don't like the subject matter. Pim, if you're reading this, Please come back. Jx

11 Aug, 2012

 

Oh, I'm sure he will, one way or another, Jane21.

11 Aug, 2012

 

Ive just got back from a smashing day out with a Goy friend (no prizes for guessing who it was!). I was surprised and saddened to see that Pimpernel has decided to leave Goy - such a shame.

11 Aug, 2012

 

Hmm, funny, Poppylover, I had a lovely day out with a fellow Goyer yesterday (Lily 2)... we went to another Goyer's garden (Andrewr).

11 Aug, 2012

 

The whole thing has left me sad and confused.I PMd Pimms to support his apology, to say that there were other apologies due and ask him not to leave.I cannot understand how the whole thing started in the first place but in his apology, Pimpernel appeared to say that Stevie had been unfairly vilified, or did I misunderstand?

11 Aug, 2012

 

I'm sad to read that Pimpernel has decided to leave. I hadn't been on much lately therefore unaware of what has been going on.
If you do happen to pop back in P....you will be sadly missed xx

11 Aug, 2012

 

I'm hoping that he'll miss us, and maybe come back in a little while. When words are typed we can TRY to give different emphasis, but without facial expressions and body language (and sometimes a different mother tongue) misunderstandings are quite likely to arise . . . but I'm probably being naive :))

12 Aug, 2012

 

sorry to hear he as gone, dont know why people have to fallout with each other, life's to short to fall out.

12 Aug, 2012

 

Here Here Clarice

12 Aug, 2012

 

Too true Clarice. We are all a 'long time gone'
Sheila, my words exactly, the written word can be confusing.

12 Aug, 2012

 

No, you didn't misunderstand, Tuesdaybear - and it wasn't just Stevie who got the slash and burn treatment on that blog, or so I'm very reliably informed. I didn't see what happened, having already reduced my interaction on here.

12 Aug, 2012

 

It occurs to me that someone ought to write something on being grown ups rather than kids in a playground - the fact is, statistically, if a blog or article gathers more than 55 comments, the chances of subsequent comments becoming vitriolic increase exponentially with each one that's added. And that's the internet generally, not just on here.
If the person who posts the blog is sensible, they can and should close or remove the blog as soon as spite appears, in order to prevent things deteriorating even more, given we have no moderators to do that for us. But that requires a degree of sensible, adult thought and action rather than going along with, or allowing to continue, a descent into bullying and side taking. We're all different - the written word is sometimes hard to interpret, and emotions get heightened, tolerance goes out the window, and people lose it. So stepping in at the right moment is critical - but it relies on clarity of thought, a lack of negative emotional involvement, and good judgement, qualities which have been sadly lacking in recent weeks on here.

12 Aug, 2012

 

Actually, I don't think the item/incident in question was a blog, it was from a thread developing from a photo. When looked at as a whole, it was easy to see where the 'misinterpretation' occurred and how things got out of hand. As several members have suggested, without facial expression and visible body language, it is sometimes easy to interpret the written word wrongly - and so it escalates.
I'm not quite sure I understand what exactly you mean by the 'slash and burn treatment' Bamboo, it seems an odd analogy to use here. Pim perhaps unwisely over defended Lil, but honestly, it wasn't that over the top and probably just best ignored. He may well have Pm'd STT, but that was not public and so can't be commented on. He did make an apology in the end, which is all any of us can do, if we do something we regret later.
As for long threads, some of them between like minded members are just hilarious and have several of us laughing for days. There is no nastiness there, just slightly whacky off beat humour. I suppose those with a similar sense of humour tend to flock together and perhaps bond a bit more on the site. But I do think there are a lot of genuine friendships developed here, which is a wonderful thing and long may it continue.
In all honesty, I think this essentially 'trivial' issue (certainly if you look at it in global terms) is now best forgotten and put to bed. It's happened, it's been and it's gone. there is no point raking it all up ad infinitum.
Now, big hugs all round and lets get back to the important stuff of life, humour, gardens and friendship in no particular order. Jx

12 Aug, 2012

 

Slash and burn refers to these incidents, of which there have been more than one in the last few weeks, and in previous years, Jane21 - in this case its just verbal shorthand, given I didn't see what happened.
You're right about humour - I've done blogs in the past which have had over 200 comments, all in good heart and some very funny. But that's not to say I wasn't 'policing' it once it got over a certain number - if it had turned to something nasty, I'd have taken it down immediately, and the same applies to anything we publish, photo or whatever. But it didn't, and was just fun... and I guess that's what I'm saying, it's about taking a bit of responsibility for what it is we've published, keeping an eye and nipping in the bud any nastiness. Its horrible, we all hate it and it leaves a bad taste in everyone's mouths.
So let's just get on with the nice stuff and giving out information ... which is what this site should be as a social gardening one.

12 Aug, 2012

 

:o)))

12 Aug, 2012

 

Hear hear Jane. :)

12 Aug, 2012

 

and me!

Whats the old adage

"if you can't find something nice to say........don't sayanything"

12 Aug, 2012

 

:)
certainly is Pam.

12 Aug, 2012

 

:0)

12 Aug, 2012

 

Absolutely right, Pam. :))

12 Aug, 2012

 

:0))

13 Aug, 2012

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